When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

Hey you. Yes, you - reading this because that little voice in your head keeps whispering that you’re not good enough. Maybe it pops up when you compare yourself to others or when you make a mistake. Whatever the reason, I want you to know this: those thoughts don’t define you. In my **child therapy** clinic in **Hertfordshire**, I’ve helped loads of young people quiet that critical voice, and you can too 💬✨. Let’s take a moment to explore why you might feel this way. Social media? Pressure from school? Family expectations? All of these can feed into feeling like you’re not measuring up. It’s so easy to scroll through Instagram or TikTok and assume everyone else has it all figured out. But here’s the truth: what you see online is usually a highlight reel. Everyone - even the ones who look confident and happy - struggles with self-doubt sometimes. This is where **NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)** and **hypnotherapy for children** come in. These are tools we regularly use at NLP4Kids to help young people shift those unhelpful thought patterns. For example, instead of thinking “I’m terrible at this,” we help you reframe it as “I’m learning something new.” These little language changes have a powerful impact on how you feel. If this all feels a bit overwhelming, you're not alone. Lots of teens I work with in **North London**, **St Albans**, and **Hemel Hempstead** believe they're the only ones feeling this way - but trust me, it’s more common than you might think. That’s why having a safe space to talk is so important. A free initial consultation with a **child therapist** can help you understand whether **child therapy** or **hypnotherapy for children** might be a helpful next step for you. Here's a simple trick to start with: notice when you're being hard on yourself. Would you say those same things to your best mate? Probably not. So why speak to yourself that way? Start practising self-compassion. Speak to yourself with kindness, encouragement, and patience 🧡. Another great strategy is journaling. Writing things down - your thoughts, worries, or even little wins - can be a powerful way to process emotions and track your progress. It helps you see patterns and makes the invisible feelings feel a little more manageable. Try jotting down three things you’re proud of each day - they don’t have to be big. Even “I got out of bed on time” or “I finished a tough bit of homework” count 📝. Remember, growth doesn’t mean being perfect. It means making progress, little by little. Maybe it’s speaking up in class, trying something new, or simply catching yourself in a negative thought and choosing a kinder one instead. You don’t need to become someone else to be worthy. You’re already enough. But if believing that feels hard right now, we’re here to help. Whether in-person in **Hertfordshire**, **North London**, **St Albans**, **Hemel Hempstead**, or **online via Zoom**, **child therapy** and **hypnotherapy for children** can help you rediscover your confidence and self-worth. Take a deep breath. This is the first step in your journey towards feeling more empowered - and we’ll walk it with you. You’ve got this 💪. By Gemma Bailey https://www.childtherapisthertfordshire.nlp4kids.org